There is only one emotion. All other emotions are variations and distortions of this emotion. Just like all the colors blend to create the white color, love consists of all other emotions.
Even fear which is the opposite of love in it’s highest expression is a form of love. For instance when a mother is concerned about her son crossing the road alone she is expressing her love for him.
Though love is all there is usually it doesn’t feel like it. Currently anxiety is more prevalent than before and the majority of population has experienced it at least once in their life.
Although anxiety is considered negative in many cases fear is useful and can even save your life. If it wasn’t for fear you wouldn’t know to stay away from a hot stove.
In the past it was essential that when we encounter a predator we could flee. So When we felt frightened our body entered a state called fight-or-flight. In this state our body works differently it allocates resources differently.
Among the symptoms of this response are:
Dilation of blood vessels for muscles.
Dilation of pupil.
Inhibition of erection.
Auditory Exclusion (loss of hearing).
Tunnel Vision (loss of peripheral vision).
Constriction of blood vessels in many parts of the body.
Inhibition of stomach and intestinal action.
Acceleration of heart and lung action.
Nowadays even though we don’t have predators every time we feel fear our body enters the same state. It happens because our nervous system can’t differentiate between real and imagined threats.
The negative aspects of this response may be:constipation,Diarrhea, difficulty maintaining sexual arousal. In more series cases it can result in chronic suppression of the immune system, leaving the sufferer vulnerable to infection by viruses and bacteria.
It’s commonly know that we are born with only two fears, the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. All other anxieties are learned. But if we learn to fear we can also unlearn.
The first step is to acknowledge your fear. It’s important to distinguish between the feeling you feel and your personalty. If you say I’m a cowered it’s different than saying I feel afraid. In the first sentence you declare that the fear is a part of you. In the second version you state that you feel anxious now.
The second step is understanding what frightens you. Often we feel fear without knowing the source. Ask yourself what frightens me?
The third step is asking yourself what can you do about it? write down your answers. If you realize that there is nothing you can do then there isn’t a good reason to feel anxious. The whole purpose of the feeling is so that you can do something about it.
The final step is deciding what you are going to do and execute it.
Another great technique is simply to say the word love like a mantra. By repeating the word love you tune your energy and intention towards love.
Here is a great EFT video about Stress Relief.
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