The Hardest Detox | Getting Rid of Negative People in Your Life

Detoxing is a very important step in recovery; it frees you and empowers you by resetting your body to start the new life you want. However, there is a type of detoxing we all hate to do. We can survive all sorts of cleansing and withdrawals, but this type of detox is one of the most difficult ones to do and can sometimes delay our recovery process: Getting rid of the negative influences in our life.

Staying Strong

Without the correct support, it is difficult to stay strong. Having people that support you on your path is probably as vital as taking the first step. If you have people in your life that are holding you back, your chances of staying strong decrease significantly. I have seen it with many of my friends that refuse to let go of some of the people in their lives that contribute to either addictions and/or have not taken that first step of admitting they have a problem too.

Freeing Yourself

Letting go of negative people in your life is simple, yet challenging. I find that breaking up with friends and family has been harder than breaking up with a partner. We tend to hold tighter to our friends and relatives and we defend them against almost anything.   So how do we “break up” relationships that are not serving us? Well, the first step is to stop denying that a person is holding you back or contributing to your addiction. Voicing it, saying it out loud helps: “(fill in the blank) is no longer serving me and my greater good.” “(fill in the blank) doesn’t have my best interest at heart”, “(fill in the blank) causes drama and negativity in my life”, “(fill in the blank) is not supportive of my health and recovery path”.

I finally broke up a relationship that was draining me; a friend that for years fed me her own drama and addictions. I stayed in the relationship because I thought I could help her, but also I was in denial that I enjoyed her weekly calls with drama and stress. It was hard to admit that to myself, but once I did and was honest that I was feeding my addictions thru her drama, I was able to let go.

Learning to Build and Nourish Healthy Relationships

After being in abusive relationships or accepting life with negative people that bring you down, it’s hard to recognize and accept those in our lives that bring us joy and have our best interest at heart.  It will take time to heal and learn how to build new relationships that are honest and loving. Once you have broken free from the negative people in your life, you will have space for new healthy relationships.   If your cup is full of negativity, how can you fill it with positivity?  Empty it first, and make room.  That’s how!  Remember, most unhealthy relationships are one way street, where only one person gets heard.  Once I stopped taking the weekly calls from my negative friends, I gained so many wonderful, healthy friends and learned to have two way friendships instead of just being “the sponge” that soaked up all the other person’s junk.  Now I have true friends and we love each other for who we are… and we all get time to share our lives with each other.   Now that’s healthy!

One of my favorite hobbies is clearing clutter, as in physical junk in my surroundings.  However, now  I knew it was time for me to “clear the clutter” in my relationships. It’s scary at first, but so are all new journeys we take in life.  You will know who those people are and the universe will guide you when you are ready to take that step.  Try to recognize these unhealthy relationships sooner than later so they don’t take a toll on your health and recovery path. Keeping the Get Clean Blox on my desk and turning it to read the empowering words, reminds me of my goals so when I get a call or email from someone who doesn’t serve my purpose; I know it is OK to not answer.

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By Lina Gonzalez, a vegan environmentalist raw foodist tech yogini. She loves books, music, the beach, writing, and all things purple! She’s a certified yoga teacher and blogs about the Alkaline lifestyle at her personal blog.

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  • Claudia I.

    Excelente! Gracias, a lot of people are in this situation, but always we have a but… and another but… and we never put the end to that relationships that really don’t work for us. In this article I found the motivation to do it! if you can do it, I can do it too!.

    • http://www.Panyvinito.com Lina Gonzalez

      Hi Claudia! Glad it inspires you. It’s true that we always find a “but” and that should not stop us :) I started with my facebook friends first, and that help me get my feet warm.
      Many blessings on your journey!